Showing posts with label confession. Show all posts
Showing posts with label confession. Show all posts

Friday, July 8, 2011

Priests: Can They Be 'Excommunicated'? And Can They Get Married?

Hello, Coffee Talkers!

A couple interesting questions have come to my attention, in light of recent events. These questions are complex and multifaceted, and I'll admit that I'm no expert in questions regarding the priesthood -- a canon lawyer or someone involved in priestly formation and direction would be more fully educated regarding these questions. Still, I do have some knowledge of these things, and so I'll do my best to share what I do know in a way that is (relatively) succinct and easy to understand.


First question: What constitutes excommunication? Are priests never excommunicated? What does it mean to say that a priest is "a priest forever"?

Second Question: [In regard to certain priests being unfaithful to their vow of celibacy], for me it always leads back around to the issue of "priests being married". I think the majority of Catholics agree. Not that married priests would not have their own set of issues. What do you think, Leslie -- 100 years from now, might they be able to marry?

Okay, here we go! First, let's talk about excommunication. There was a time in the history of the Church when excommunication referred to two different states. The first was called "minor excommunication," which referred to a person being barred from receiving Eucharistic communion because they were in a state of mortal sin and had not yet been to sacramental confession. This is, of course, a situation that can be easily rectified in modern times by going to confession! The second type, called "major excommunication," referred to a person who was formally declared by a bishop or by the Pope to no longer be in communion with the Catholic Church because of a very serious and deliberate act contrary to the Church's teaching. Only this latter definition of excommunication is in popular use today, and it means that the excommunicated person cannot receive any of the Church's sacraments or participate in her public worship until such a time as suitable reparation and satisfaction have been made. The Church always leaves a path to reconciliation open to excommunicated members, and it is the hope that their time of exile from the ecclesiastical community will be short-lived.


In regard to priests, yes, priests can be excommunicated. If they are, they not only face the same restrictions as an excommunicated lay person, but they are also forbidden from the administration of the sacraments or other sacred rites and they may not exercise any acts of spiritual authority. This does not, of course, mean that an excommunicated person (lay or cleric) ceases to be a Christian -- they are always a Christian by nature of their baptism (which brought about an ontological change, or changed the nature of a person's being). Similarly, a priest, having received the sacrament of Holy Orders and having been ordained a priest through Apostolic succession, once validly ordained, always remains a priest. He may be removed from his ministry due to excommunication, or he may be 'laicized' by his own request for no morally problematic reason. In either case, however, he remains a priest ontologically (or in his soul's nature of being). However, he can no longer exercise priestly functions. See this article on what an ex-priest can and can't do for more details.




In regard to the second question, let me answer this question from its end to its beginning. Do I think that priests might someday be able to marry? Yes. In fact, many priests already are married. There are more than 20 different rites of Catholicism, and in the Eastern rites, it is common to allow priests to marry (although they may not marry after being ordained, and they may not serve as bishops if they are married). Also, although the normal practice for Roman Catholic priests is to be and to remain unmarried, we do have some married Roman Catholic priests who, by a special pastoral provision, converted to Roman Catholicism after having previously served as married priests in the Anglican (or Episcopal) Church. For my local friends, you may be interested to know that the current priest chaplain at St. Mary's hospital is one of these married priests under the pastoral provision. 

I have known several married Roman Catholic priests in the USA, and it has been an honor and blessing to know them. However, not one of them has argued in favor of priests in the Roman Rite being regularly married. Why, we may wonder? Here are a few of my own thoughts -- 1. Eastern Rite churches in the US are significantly smaller in numbers of parishioners than Roman Catholic parishes; 2. the demands of time and emotional, spiritual, and physical efforts devoted by the average Roman Catholic priest would significantly limit the time available to care for and support a wife and children; and 3. most of the married priests I know became Catholic when they were not in the midst of life with a young family, and I think they can see the serious challenges of being a married priest more realistically than we can.


Lastly, and most importantly, I want to say this very clearly: priestly celibacy is not the cause of any of their personal indiscretions, and allowing priests to marry would in NO WAY solve individual problems of abuse and infidelity. I mean no disrespect when I say this, but I'm just not sure why so many Catholics think that if priests could marry they would not have the problems that a very public few of them have had/are currently having. This argument makes NO SENSE! This becomes more clear when we look at similar indiscretions committed by men who are not priests. Let me try to illustrate by way of a couple examples:


1. Bob and Sue are married with children. All seems well in their marriage, until Sue learns that Bob has a serious problem with child pornography. I would hope that no one would suggest that if Bob had only had another wife, or a mistress, or even a prostitute, he would not have felt the need to resort to child pornography. Bob has some serious problems that cannot be resolved simply by having a wife.


2. Frank is an unmarried man, and a teacher. He is accused of having inappropriate relationships with several of his students. No one would say that this problem would not have come about if Frank could only have married. Frank could have married, but it clearly would not have resolved whatever deeper problems he had.


I suspect that there are a lot of underlying assumptions about human sexuality that play into the idea that priests need to be married, and I suspect that a lot of these ideas come from the perspective of modern secular psychoanalytical theories and such rather than from a philosophy of the human person that is compatible with Christianity. I'll get into this more tomorrow. I'm sure this is more than enough for us all to ponder for now!


As always, thanks for stopping by! Be assured of my prayers.


Peace and all good,
Leslie

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Confession: Power to Forgive & Grace to Change

Hello, Coffee Talkers!

Tonight, a question!

Dear Leslie,

Do you go to confession? This is something that I am struggling with. I've never actually gone and I have been a Catholic officially for 5 years and been going to the Catholic church my whole life. As Easter quickly approaches it is heavy on my mind. I want to improve my relationship right now and I am feeling very blocked right now. Advise please.

Sincerely,
Seeking God

Dear Seeking,

Yes, I go to confession. For many years, I did not go very frequently, but I had an experience in college that allowed me to experience an aspect of the sacrament that I had never understood prior to that time. There was a particular professor who I'd been having a very difficult time with, or should I say that the professor had been having a very difficult time with me? In either case, it was a problem that was ongoing, since we had to see one another very frequently at the time and I knew something had to be done to change the situation. At first, I tended to blame the professor for being the cause of most of our difficulties (since it is generally easier to examine someone else's conscience than my own!), but after some more serious reflection and introspection I realized that  I also had a part in the problem and had done some things wrong. I knew that I could not talk to the professor about my realizations, and that even an apology probably would have ended in yet another misunderstanding or disagreement. But I also knew there was one place that I could always go to confess my wrongdoing, be completely forgiven, and get a fresh start. As it was a Saturday, I walked to the local Cathedral and got in line for confession.

I went behind the screen so I didn't have to think about who the priest was, and I confessed all of what I'd done wrong. I made my act of contrition, went into the church to pray and make my penance, and walked back to campus. I felt more peaceful about the situation, but although a burden had been lifted for me personally, I still had no idea what effect this could possibly have in my daily life.

A few weeks later, that same professor pulled me aside one day and said, "Leslie, I don't know what's going on in your life, but I can see that something has changed. And it's something good. I have found you much easier to work with recently, and just wanted to let you know."

Two points to be made here: 1.) this professor was certainly not one to be lavish in praise, to say the least, so this conversation was nothing short of a minor miracle, and 2.) while I had always understood that sacramental confession had the power to forgive our sins, I had never before understood that the sacrament also gives us the grace to change. And suddenly that reality, through my own experience, was huge, personal, and powerful. Trust me, I had tried and tried on my own to make things better in my relationship with this professor, and with no success. The only thing different that time was I gave the problem to Someone else who actually had the power to change the situation through the grace to change me!

After that experience, I started to go to confession more frequently. At one point in my life, I was blessed to have a priest to whom I regularly went for confession and spiritual direction. It bore great fruit in my spiritual life to have a priest with whom I could share my particular struggles and who could give me guidance in ways to grow in faith and virtue. While I don't have a regular confessor now, I still try to get to the sacrament once or twice a month. Even beyond confessing serious sins (when confession is necessary), I find it helpful to regularly examine my conscience even for venial (or less serious) sins and to ask God where I can grow.

I'll be honest -- I hate going to confession. There are few things more distasteful on a natural level than confessing all of the things I've done wrong, than bringing my thoughts and deeds of darkness into light. But while I hate going to confession, I love leaving confession! I love the mercy of God, the forgiveness of sins, and most of all the grace to change those things about myself that I absolutely cannot change on my own. In short, I love becoming more the person God made me to be, and I see that happen when I frequent the sacraments, especially confession.

I think it's wonderful that you want to become closer to God, and I think that confession will get you there. It is customary for Catholics to make a confession during Lent in preparation for receiving communion at Easter time, and so many churches have reconciliation services where all the priests of an area come together and offer the sacrament to the faithful gathered there.

Remember, all priests are bound to the seal of the confessional, so anything that you tell them in the context of confession (whether face-to-face or behind the screen) will never be told to anyone else. Never. Priests have given their lives rather than break this seal. And if you tell them that it is your first confession, they will help you. Here is a Guide to the Sacrament of Confession that you might find helpful in preparing for the sacrament; it includes an examination of conscience based on the Ten Commandments. Also, the Bishop of the Diocese of Wichita, Kansas made a good video on examining your conscience and frequency of confession:


One practical challenge that you might face right now is that we are about to begin the Triduum -- Holy Thursday, Good Friday, and Holy Saturday -- and so the Lenten penance services are all done now. Also, no confessions are heard in parishes on Holy Saturday. So the next time your local parish would likely be offering confessions would be the Saturday following Easter.

Still, most priests will hear confessions by appointment, especially if you explain to them that it would be your first confession and you feel compelled to confess before Easter. Be warned -- Holy Week and the Triduum in particular are among the busiest times of year for priests, so if at first you don't succeed in making a confession appointment, try, try again! Call another priest. Or better yet, go into the local parish offices tomorrow. Most parish offices will be closed on Good Friday through Easter Monday, so go tomorrow!

Thanks so much for writing! I hope this has been helpful. Be assured of my prayers!

Peace and all good,
Leslie

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

News of Confession App Reaches the Vatican!

There's something I want all of my readers to know: many of our modern media sources (and of course, the people who run them) are not well-informed on the teachings of the Catholic Church. Sorry to be the one to break the news. (And hey, and while I'm at it...there is NO Easter Bunny!)

So when the news of the confession iPhone app got out, all sorts of silly reports came out about how the app got an imprimatur and now you could just confess through (or to!) your iPhone, ad nauseum. If you don't know what I'm talking about, check out yesterday's post:
http://coffeetalkwithleslie.blogspot.com/2011/02/iconfess-to-my-phone.html

Even a really solid journalist I follow half-jokingly suggested that the developers should go to confession for misleading people with their product. All I can say to that is puh-LEASE. Do you really think that the same faithful Catholic guys who went to the trouble of having a couple priests aid them in the development of the app and asking their local bishop to grant an imprimatur would then deliberately mislead people into believing that their app was a substitute for actual sacramental confession? Somehow, I think it's more likely that the media misinterpreted, than that the developers deliberately misled people or misrepresented their product.

In any case, word reached the Vatican (fun!), who then issued a statement about the new confession app. So check it out!   http://www.catholicnewsagency.com/news/new-confession-app-is-no-substitution-for-the-sacrament-vatican-says/

Peace and all good,
Leslie

P.S. The men in their 20s are tied with the women in their 40s in the age poll...the competition is getting pretty intense! ------------------------------------->

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

iConfess -- To My PHONE???

Greetings, Coffee Talkers!

Today's topic came not in the form of a question, but more as a command from my friend Christina, who had this to say:
"Just read that the Catholic Church approved some sort of confession app for the iPhone?? Blog about this Leslie!"
And so I shall!
I did a little internet research to find out the scoop on what Christina was referring to, and found out that a young man who I knew from Franciscan University of Steubenville (my grad school alma mater) made the iPhone app in question. Good job, Patrick Leinen!
The application is called "Confession: A Roman Catholic App," and is put out by Little iApps, and Indiana-based company for which Leinen is a developer and co-founder. These guys were SO smart -- I'm really impressed! They decided to design a Catholic iPhone application that would respond to Pope Benedict XVI's request in his World Communications Day address for "new media at the service of the Word." Leinen and others collaborated with two priests to make the app, and then sought the formal approval of their local Bishop in the form of an imprimatur -- brilliant! An imprimatur (from Latin for "Let it be printed") is basically a public declaration from a Bishop that nothing offensive to Catholic faith or morals is contained in a particular publication. And by seeking (and obtaining!) the Bishop's imprimatur for this iPhone app -- the first imprimatur to be given for this type of media and resource -- these guys have gotten big press for an excellent app. Well done, fellows!
This confession app is to be used not as a substitute for the traditional practice of confession, but in aiding people as they prepare to receive the sacrament and as they are in the confessional. The app has examinations of conscience personalized for each user, and a step-by-step guide to the sacrament. It will help to reduce situations like this:
Priest: In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen.
Penitent: Uh... [awkward silence]
Priest: How long has it been since your last confession?
Penitent: Oh, a real long time, Father. [confession takes place]
Priest: Now make a good act of contrition.
Penitent: Uh... [more awkward silence] A what?
Now, with "Confession: A Roman Catholic App," you can let both your iPhone and your well-formed and examined conscience be your guide! Check it out, y'all: http://www.littleiapps.com/index.php
Now, there are apparently a number of other confession-related iPhone apps, but the one I've mentioned here is the only one to have received an imprimatur. This is not to say that the others necessarily contain moral error -- just that they have not been formally approved by the Catholic Church. I did come across one comically irreverent app, which definitely does contain some moral errors, but I'll admit that it still made me chuckle: http://www.confessionboothapp.com/

And in case there are some readers wondering why Catholics go to confession to priests, it comes from Jesus himself who gave this authority to his Apostles when he told them, "Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained" (John 20:23). Sure, most of us might have a personal preference for just confessing our sins directly to our iPhone, but since Jesus himself established the forgiveness of sins in a less expensive and more accessible way, I'll stick with it. (Besides, the iPhone doesn't have to abide by that 'seal of the confessional' business, so who knows who your phone'll be calling up and telling all of your dirt.)

In short, I'd say that both the sacrament itself and "Confession: A Roman Catholic App" are legit. So iPhone people, start downloading, and get confessing. And since I'm still iPhone-less myself, please let our Coffee Talk community know how you like it!

Peace and all good,
Leslie